“Divorce was difficult for a number of reasons but mostly because now I was suddenly the sole person responsible for daycare, rent, transportation and all my daughters’ financial needs. I did a lot of robbing “Peter to pay Paul” as the saying goes. I remember times when I went grocery shopping and realized I would not have enough money to put gas in the car and had to put groceries back.”
Transitioning to single motherhood was no easy task as she was forced to quickly adjust to her new reality.
“The most difficult part of being a single mom was having to make all the decisions on my own. At that time, it was a process to file child support. I was working full time to support the kids and I didn’t have time to deal with the challenges of the court system. I decided early on that if he didn’t want to take care of his kids, I wasn’t going to force him to. I don’t know if it was the right decision but that was my mindset at the time.”
Like many parents she balanced the competing demands of work, parenting, and furthering her education.
“I was working eight to twelve hour shifts as a nurse and trying to find someone to watch the kids. My family was not close by so I depended on friends and colleagues who were supportive. I found a job that offered daycare on site and was able to bring the kids to work with me. It was a logistical nightmare but somehow, it worked.”
Now a licensed nurse practitioner and a professor, Lucindra lends her expertise to working with military service members getting ready for or returning from deployment. She partners with community organizations and participates in medical missions across the globe including Haiti, Kenya and other developing nations.
“Of all the community service initiatives, I’m most passionate about my mission work in Haiti. The living conditions there are devastating. Everything from the housing situation to the government have suppressed the Haitian people. I really wanted to help–to show them that people in other parts of the world cared. We have been able to not only contribute to their medical needs but build housing, clean water systems, and support reading advocacy.”
Lucindra you are a #MomWhoRocks!